War and my grandmother's roses Mar 02, 2022

I am very aware that you haven’t heard from me in a couple of weeks.

I’m sorry.

First I was starting a new book (which requires bit of a PUSH in the beginning…) then events here in Europe have simply left me STUNNED and very much WITHOUT WORDS.

Let’s try talking...

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If the She-cession is over, why are mothers screaming? Jan 30, 2022

A group of mothers in the US have been meeting up on a football field to scream.

(You have probably seen the photos.)

Frustrated with school-closures and almost two years of raising children in a pandemic, these mums are LETTING IT OUT.

It made international news this week.

But why...

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How do we expect men to do more housework if we present it as meaningless work? Jan 16, 2022

“We need to stop telling women they just need an ‘equal partnership’ at home” wrote professor Bobbi Thomason in The Harvard Business Review this week.

The conclusion in the much tweeted article was that these EQUAL MALE PARTNERS willing to split...

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The need to "love maleness" and think differently about work Dec 18, 2021

bell hooks died this week.

She was kind of a WHOLE SCHOOL of feminist thought all to herself.

But she is probably most widely famous for her writing on love:

About how in our current system of gender hierarchy neither men nor women really learn how to love.

Men are taught to distrust...

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Getting thrown out of a Hollywood press junket and what it taught me about motherhood Dec 04, 2021

A few years ago I had to bring my son to a press junket at a big London hotel.

It was a childcare emergency (the person who was going to look after him had to go to hospital) so I took him into London in the buggy not thinking that much about it.

The press junket was for a family film,...

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Women and shopping - a complicated story Nov 27, 2021

Black Friday has come and gone. The biggest shopping day of the year and you have probably found this newsletter buried among all the discount codes you have been getting spammed with.

So, let’s talk about women and shopping.

It’s a complicated story.

When department stores first...

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Emily Ratajkowski is both capital and capitalist Nov 12, 2021

The supermodel Emily Ratajkowski has written a book.

It is called “My body”. It’s just out and it’s being discussed A LOT.

Some people see it’s a memoir of a straight white woman complaining about how difficult it is to be extremely beautiful

Others...

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Why almost every world leader at COP26 is male Nov 05, 2021

Today we really need to talk about THIS.

THIS, as you might have already seen, is a photo of the world leaders who have been negotiating the future of our planet at the UN Climate Change Conference in Glasgow this week.

Concepts like ”patriarchy” can often seem hard to grasp.

Or...

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Why amazing parental leave won't set women free Oct 28, 2021

There’s a story of an American tourist visiting Stockholm. After an afternoon walking around the Swedish capital she turns to her Swedish host and asks:

- Hey, what’s up with all the gay nannies!

NO, this story is probably not true.

But YES  the sight of a lot of DADS pushing...

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What to say to men who brag about how much they work Oct 21, 2021

I don’t know how much you follow British politics.

But there used to be this guy advising Boris Johnson called Dominic Cummings.

Benedict Cumberbatch played him in a film about Brexit.

(Yes there is a film about Brexit).

He was also quite instrumental in getting the UK to...

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Why most chefs are men while cooking at home is still seen as women’s work Oct 14, 2021

Two different readers of this newsletter brought up the same question this week: how can cooking still be seen as women’s work while most professional chefs are men?

This reminded me of a conversation I had some time ago with my friend Margaretha.

We were basically ranting about a...

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Do women earn less because they choose the wrong degrees? Oct 07, 2021

Women earn less because they choose the wrong degrees, study finds” a headline in the Telegraph stated the other day.

It made many people angry.

Because what many people heard was:

“The gender pay gap is women’s own damn fault!”

However.

That’s not what it...

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